don’t check up on people who have decided you are not in their picture anymore. you don’t need to know how they’re doing. save yourself the trouble, seriously.
stop calling she/her pronouns “girl pronouns” and stop calling he/hm pronouns “boy pronouns” there are nonbinary people who use those pronouns and youre excluding them stop
also stop saying that you dont care what pronouns people use for you if youre cis
Ditto “female/feminine pronouns” or “male/masculine pronouns.”
Saying “she/her/hers,” “he/him/his,” “they/them/theirs” etc is way more clear.